Holding On to Hope When Holidays Hurt
The holiday season often brings thoughts of joy, laughter, and togetherness. But for those walking through grief, this time of year can feel heavy and lonely. The lights and music that once brought comfort may now stir painful reminders of what’s missing. If you’re grieving this holiday season, know this: you are not alone, and your sorrow matters to God.
This isn’t just for those grieving the loss of a loved one, but grief takes many shapes and forms.
Grief is not a lack of faith but rather a reflection of love. Scripture reminds us in Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” God does not turn away from our pain; He draws near. Jesus Himself wept at the tomb of Lazarus, showing us that tears are not weakness but a natural response to loss.
So how do we navigate the holidays when our hearts ache?
1. Give Yourself Permission to Feel
You don’t have to force joy or pretend everything is okay. Grief is a journey, and it’s okay to acknowledge the sadness. God invites us to bring our honest emotions to Him; He can handle them.
2. Create Space for Remembrance
Light a candle, share a favorite story, or set aside a moment to honor the one you miss. These acts can transform pain into a sacred memory, reminding us that love never truly ends.
3. Anchor Yourself in Hope
The holidays celebrate the coming of Christ; the One who brings light into darkness. Even in grief, His promise stands: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5) Our sorrow is real, but so is His presence and His peace.
4. Accept Grace for This Season
If traditions feel overwhelming, simplify. If gatherings feel too hard, step back. Grace means you don’t have to do everything the way you used to. God’s love is not measured by how much you accomplish; it’s constant and unconditional.
This holiday may look different, but it can still hold meaning. In the quiet moments, let His comfort wrap around you. Let His promises remind you that grief is not the end of the story. Because of Jesus, we have hope that one day every tear will be wiped away.
I’m there with you in the grieving this year. We will make it.
Sandy
